I think the crazy, sweating, ranting black coach whose name escapes me said it best when he stated "They are exactly what we thought they were". This statement has become one of my Pembrokisms, mostly because it fits every situation.
Most of the time, what you think people are...they are. They show you, but for some reason we try to change 10-20-hell 30 years of mess that has been brewing before we got on the scene. I think sometimes, as women, our maternal insticts tell us contradicting things.
On one hand, we tend to cultivate or nuture people with problems in hopes that one day they will get better. On the other hand we have instincts like a mutha that tell us exactly what to do (run most of the time), but we are too busy ego stroking that that little voice in our heads gets quieter and quieter.
I think, maybe for a month...we should just try going with your instincts. If something inside you pulls you one way, go with it. Don't over think it...see where it leads you. It may lead you to something good...or out of something bad. Try it...
Rae, you always hit the nail on the head. Church folks call those thoughts "listening to the Holy Spirit." The shrinks it watching out for red flags. The only thing I can add here is that if we spent more time in our own business,we would not have to time to play mutha to the grown up brutha! Let a brutha sink or swim. Isn't this what the sistahs have to do... errry day?
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