Sunday, August 28, 2011

In My Ears: Jodeci

Ok, so every girl...who is now in their 30's knows, and LOVES Jodeci! Me and my friends used to sing their songs on the phone when we were in elementary school, and Lawd knows we knew nothing about what they were singing about! How these guys who were only like 18 themselves, sang songs with so much passion and intensity is amazing.

I want to share my favorite song with you guys...I'm Still Waiting. OH M Gee. This song, off their first album is the most underrated celebrated song. I have this on repeat and heavy rotation right now. I have a Pandora station set to Jodeci and when I hear this particular song, it takes me back. Waaayyyy back!

Enjoy!

My Natural Soro: Tyee

So, I talk about my "Natural Soros" as women who are connected to me through our hair journey, but this lady is connected to me through so much more. This lady is my sister, my best friend. I used to want to be her when I was growing up and practically was her (through the use of her I.D) until I turned of age, lol. I love her so much and am sooooo proud of her journey and her daughter, my niece's journey. You guys have seen her featured in a couple of my post also. Here is her natural hair story...enjoy!


How long have you been natural?
I started my journey September 2010

Did you transition or go straight bc?
I transitioned.

Why did you go natural?
I was with my family for my niece 2nd birthday in Maryland. My sister was talking how she was starting the journey. She suggested we start with her (that sister is me:-) We talked about perms and chemicals that we have used the majority of our lives and how going natural wasn't easy, but so rewarding. I never second guessed it because I knew I wanted to change my look.  This came at the perfect time of my life!

Were you attached when you made the decision? If so, did your mate have an opinion?
No.

What is your favorite style so far?
I do the two strand twist and roll with curl rods. I let this air dry, undo the twists and fluff it out.




What are your favorite products?
Creme of nature detangling shampoo, suave naturals conditioner are what I'm using for my wash and condition routine. I have a really dry scalp so I use 1/2 cup of apple cider vinegar and 1/2 cup of water after I shampoo.  I leave this on for a couple of minutes, then rinse and condition.  I also use Kinky Curly Knot Today leave in conditioner and Ultra Sheen/Ultra Care Serum (coconut, avocado and castor oil), plus shea butter for moisture and sealing.

What is your regimen and what do you do with your hair at night?
I oil my hair every night and sleep on a satin pillow case. I tried to use a satin wrap, but I get hot at night and this would make my hair very frizzy in the morning.

Do you have any advice for newly naturals?
Don't get frustrated! The journey can be difficult. Check out youtube because they have SOOOO many videos and tutorials on styles. Don't give up!  My sister helped me a lot with finding suitable products, but you will need to try different products because what works for some, doesn't work for all.  Its all trial and error, but so rewarding! You learn so much about your hair. Don't be scared or think you're not attractive. There is nothing sexier than a woman who goes natural (and fells confident and secure about herself). Have fun with it!


What have you learned about yourself throughout the journey?
I learned that I have natural beauty! I have never felt more sexy. My natural look is so me. I feel free. When I was perming my hair, it would take me so long to get ready and leave the house.  I had to flat iron and style my hair. Now, I wake up, run oil through my hair, fluff it, and GO! I love my hair! I can't keep my hands out of it.  It has been so empowering, and I realized how beautiful my hair is without the perm. The natural waves and curls are amazing, and now my hair is so healthy and thick. I thank my beautiful sister Rae for bringing this journey to my life. I always used to see women with natural styles and thought, that would never look right on my head. I think I was afraid to change. This is my pure essence, the real me!

Will this thing last forever eva?
This is forever me! I will never go back! I have found what I've been looking for in myself.

I'm soooooo incredibly proud of my sister for letting me interview her and for going through this journey with me! Its so much better when you have a friend, or sister to go through everything with! Life, hair, whatever, life is better when your sister is holding your hand:-)

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Star Performer

To say I'm a proud mommy is an understatement!  On Saturday, my baby, only 2 years old, had her first performance.

She told me the night before she wanted "big hair, reeeeallly big hair". I said okay baby, you got it.

I blew her hair out after washing it that morning and this was her hair style for the program!





Absolutely adorable! She reminded me of a young Rudy from the Cosby Show. To do her hair I blow dryed it on low, cool heat, after detangling and sealing with Knot Today and Coconut Oil. Tied a ribbon around that fro and leggo!




She did really good with her program, other than the fact she pushed her hair up halfway through the Crayon Song and it started to look a little wild, but I didn't care.

At age 2 she performed the following: The Christian Pledge, The Crayon Song, The Alphabet in Sign Language, Several Phrases and words in Sign Language, a Spanish Conversation, and counted in Spanish! I was taken aback and soooo proud of her! It was the cutest thing I've ever seen!

I haven't cried in about 3 years, but on this day, I felt the tears welling up. They didn't fall, but it was close:-)

Following the program, I thought it was really important she and I got library cards at our new local library. So this is what we did...

I can't wait to continue learning and loving with my baby!

The Great Shed of 2011

Shedding...ugh#@$#@!

For the past maybe 4 months, after every wash and detangle and shingling session I have about this much hair come out.


                                                Shed Hair for One Month (divided by weeks)
                                                Source: naturallycurly.com

My hair is not this long, but this is about how much came out after each wash. Not to mention, this x2 because I wash my hair about 2 times a week. I tried to find info on #naturalhairshedding, but it seems it is not talked about a lot. I'm not sure if other naturals don't experience as much shedding as I have, but dude, it was becoming crazy and really led me to think I just needed to chop again and start from the beginning.

I did not...I took some time to realize what may be causing the shedding. I was nearing my year, so I said "maybe its just that my hair is getting a little longer and not really shedding". Ha. No. That was not true, it was shedding, breaking, whatever you want to call it. Ok, so the first like talk about the differences in the terms.

Shedding: Shedding refers to old hairs coming out to make room for new hairs.
Breaking: Breaking refers to hair (new or old) breaking, not at the root, but mid shaft.

I felt I was experiencing both of this things at a rapid rate. My front was starting to look like a receding hair line.

You see these thin edges? I'm pretty sure my hair is receding right! Look at this crap!
So, what did I do... I changed up my routine. My previous routine consisted of shampooing with a light shampoo, conditioning, deep conditioning, detangle, seal, and wash and go.

This week, I tried a new routine, and I have to say, I am almost in tears while writing this...my hair did not shed almost at all, except for a few, very few strands here and there. I typically have to wash my hands mid shingle because its covered in my curls. This time, I got through the whole freaking head!!!

My routine...well for the past month or two, I've totally taken shampoo out of my process. No shampoo at all. I thought maybe the shampoo was causing my hair to get more dry and tangled, and caused me to loose more hair during the detangle process. I now only cowash with Giovanni Volumness conditioner I got from Marshalls (random find for a huge bottle for 10 bucks!) I still had shed after this, a little less, but still a whole lot in my opinion.

This Sunday, instead of my typical deep condition, detangle and shingle routine, I didn't shingle. I wanted to give my hair a break from the gel. I felt maybe the breakage/shed was coming from the products drying my hair out. I did a twistout on wet hair, just sealing with coconut oil and moisturizing with Knot Today. I wore the twist out for about 3 days.

On my second wash day, Wednesday, I bought a new conditioner...(cue the music). This product...Profectiv Mega Growth Deep Strengthening Growth Conditioner.


 I got this from CVS on my lunch break on a whim for like $6. I had not heard anything about it, and it was with the "permed" hair stuff, but the ingredients (lots of proteins, mineral oils, etc) sound like a recipe I needed. All the light, natural, organicy stuff is good. But my hair was dying for something with some meat on it.

I cowashed, and slathered this stuff on. Let me tell you...it was like my soul opened up and cried. It felt so smooth going on...so thick. I had been using the Giovanni Smooth as Silk Deep Conditioner, and it was okay, but WAY to light for my mane. I applied this like you would apply a perm, section by section and coated all my curls root to tip. It says you only need it for like 10 or 20 min but I needed some serious repair! I put on my plastic cap and went to sleep in it.

In the am I washed out and OMG...I could feel it. The strength, the power! My curls felt like they had the weight they needed to stand up to the days challenge, lol. I was impressed. I decided to try it out with a shingling session to see if it could hold up and guys guess what! It did! I didn't even use the tangle teezer to detangle! Just my fingers, and if you have heard anything about how my detangle sessions go, you know, this is serious! No comb to predetangle either, just my hands, and my eco and I finished my whole head in about 15min! I am giving this conditioner all the glory for helping me!

I'm trying not to get too geeked, but I think the Great Shed of 2011 has been combated with this Mega Growth product. I'm not interested so much in the growth as the retention and I think, this product is my friend!

I'm Lovin' It!!

I’ve become completely obsessed with fashion blogs the past few weeks. When life gets me down, I got look at other fab girls and what they are wearing! Right now, my favs are fashionbananas.com, meek-n-mild.blogspot.com, and curvesandconfidence.com. I totally love the outfit of the day posts and get really good ideas. Another blog I’m loving right now is fashionwithoutguilt.com. Great ideas on how to make your dolla holla. To make it easier, I’ve joined bloglovin.com. You should too! It’s a great way to keep up with your favorite blogs! I posted these and a few other favorites in my favorite bloggers tab up top!

Here is my first attempt at an au natural pix like the lovely ladies above. I think its pretty good. There will be more to come!


Jacket - Calvin Klein
Belt - Calvin Klein
Tank - Forever 21
Jeans - NY & Company
Shoes - BCBG

This whole ish is in the way!

This is how I feel about my hair right now. I can say, within the year, I am not too in love with my mane, who I affectionaly call Sasha. Sasha ain't been right. She been a hot tangled dry mess! She need to get her life together.

Now, detangling takes me almost 10-15 mintues and I only have 5-6 inches of hair! My hair is really curly/kinky, whatever, and between the single strand knots I've been finding lately and the humidity, my hair is just not liking me right now. I use a large tooth comb to detangle or the goody style denman brush, but my hair is still coming out in rapid amounts. About enough to cover the palm of my hand.

So, a friend at work recently bought the tangle teezer and was like it works for her hair (she's transistioning), so I said ok, I'll give it a try. I went to Sally's and bought this:



This cute, sweet, unsuspecting pink thing had no idea what was about to enter its short, sweet britsles. I put it in my hair expecting it to begin just ripping through my hair. But you know what it did, it told Sasha to sit down somewhere, and she behaved! I was able to detangle my whole big head in less than 5 min! No sectioning, no comb first, just breezed through it. I was screaming out like at my amazement!

I then tried it on my daughter and I have to say, it did not give me the same results. We do not have the same hair and it seemed I needed really small sections to brush her hair. Her hair is much longer than mine and not as curly as it is kinky, so I sent back to the comb. Her hair NEVER sheds or breaks during detangle sessions (I'm completely jealous of this), so I figured if our previous process wasn't broke, the tangle teezer wouldn't fix it. I left it alone.

The tangle teezer will be my own personal friend. I heart this product. Thank you Great Britian for your awesome product!

Happy Anniversary!

I made it! One year natural! Wow...who would've thought I could go from this cut



To this fade...
 

To this TWA


To this wash and go


To even henna


And an afro poof!


To this mane!!!





My lengths currently are: 6 inches on the sides, 5.5 inches in the back, 6 inches in the front (which is quite shocking since this is my problem area, see the second picture), and about 5 inches in the middle.

When I started it was a bald head. Which is what I try to remember when I look at other people's videos of their one year anniversary and their hair looks so much longer than mine. A lot of people are starting with 6 months plus of growth so at their "year" they are really 1.5 years. I try to keep their transition time in mind, but its frustrating because looking in the mirror I feel like my hair looks the same.

Shrinkage is a motha. I'd say I have about 75% shrinkage so I seems I've had this same curly fro for a year. I've tried to stretch and blow out but those were all #fails. I'm a bottom line wash and go girl (for now). No twisting, braiding, braid outs, etc. Just wash, shingle, and go. Or wash, doodle and go. Weird things happen when I attempt anything other than this.

What have I learned in this year? Uh, I'm random. I never know how I feel or what I want to do with my hair. I want a high bun so bad, anything less than that is tough. I feel like I am never going to make it there. Although, I hope I do.

My wish for year 2...I want to eventually get my hair in some cute protective styles, I want to go to a national hair conference, and I want to rock an amazing blow out.

Leggo

I Need Yelp!

hahaha, you get it...Help/Yelp...


So, I'm a Yelper. I've been one for years and mostly read the reviews without writing many. However, recently I decided, I need to pay it forward and put my reviews out there too. I have so many to write, and now am only up to 6, lol. Don't judge me.

If you know me, you will know before I buy anything, travel anywhere, go out to eat, I read reviews. I heart reviews. I like to know what the people think. I like to do impromptu people polls while standing in lines, or across the table at dinner. I ask the waitress or bartenders what they think. I think an informed buyer is a smart buyer. DH likes to say, "You don't know those people, how can you respect their reviews". People typically only write reviews when they have a negative experience. And I want to hear about it. Up front. I like to know what I'm getting into before I take the leap.

Wouldn't it be awesome if people had a Yelp? I used to subscribe to this website "Don't Date Him Girl" but never wrote anything. I definitely looked up guys I dated to see if a girl hated him so much she put his review on there. I wonder what my review would say, probably something like...

1. She needs to review everything before she makes a decision. She's probably reading her review of reviewing right now.

Yep, that's probably all the negative you could get out of me. Other than that. I'm perfect:-). Anyhoo, I've linked my yelps to the bottom of this blog now, so you can check out where I've been and what I think. Remember, my opinion is the only one that counts!

Off the Grid


So in an attempt to get my family off the grid, I’ve totally gone…off. LOL! For father’s day I purchased the DH the Roku and the following month we went cableless. Who knew cableless meant internetless, uh I didn’t, otherwise, I would’ve thought that out better. But now we have internet again through a different provider (who I will not promote until I have a few months to decide if I like) but anything is better than the ass rapist from Comcast.

So, what is being off the grid? We were previously paying over $220 per month for a house phone (which we NEVER used), internet, and cable (with only 5 stations we really watched). Instead of paying this ridiculous amount, we decided we would experiment with options, not using the Comcast. The Roku was the choice. This little magical awesome box has provided me with so much delight.

The Roku allows you to watch Netflix (we pay $8 to stream movies), HuluPlus (which we don't have but I think is also $8), and a bunch of other movie stations. The box is $80 and that is all you pay. No monthly subscription except to your paid stations such as Hulu or Netflix. My favorite station on this little magic box is Justin.tv which allows you to watch other people's computers, webcam, etc for free. Its kinda the same as music sharing, but you can't save what you watch.

In addition to the Roku, we also have a playstation 3 and a Wii which can be used in the same way. And we have a DVD player for Lil' K. I can say, I don't miss cable. Especially now that I've figured out how to watch my True Blood and eventually Dexter in the fall.

Our total subscriptions and cable now equal $48 as opposed to $220 and that is what I call savings ladies and gentleman. This is dolla holla at its finest!